Start with the church
The parish sets the date and time, so call it first. Ask which dates are open, what preparation the parents and godparents need, and how long the service runs. For a first communion, the parish usually sets one or two dates for the whole class, often in spring, so the party date follows.
Then plan the party to start about 30 to 45 minutes after the service ends, leaving time for photos at the church and the drive.
Choosing godparents
For a Catholic baptism, the Church's rules for a sponsor (Canons 872 to 874) include being at least 16 years old, having been confirmed and received communion, leading a life of faith, and not being the child's parent. One godparent is enough, or two, one man and one woman. Your parish may ask for a letter from the godparent's own parish.
In many Latin American families, godparents also sponsor parts of the day: the baptism outfit, the candle, the cake or the bolo, the coins the padrinos toss to the children outside the church. Agree on who covers what before invitations go out.
Planning the party
- Time of day. Most are lunches or early afternoon parties after a morning service. A daytime event often costs less than a Saturday evening.
- Guest list. Count children separately. They change the menu, the seating and the need for high chairs and a kids' table.
- Menu. Family-style or a buffet works well with many children. Have something simple for the youngest guests.
- Décor. White, ivory and gold are traditional. A cake table, a photo spot and a table for the child's keepsakes are enough.
- Favors. Small and personal: a card with the child's name and date, a medal or rosary for close family.
- Length. Three to four hours is usually right.
A simple order of events
0:00
Arrival
- Guests arrive from the church. Drinks and light appetizers.
0:30
Welcome
- The parents welcome everyone and thank the godparents. A blessing before the meal.
0:45
Lunch
- Children's plates go out first.
1:45
Toast and cake
- A godparent says a few words. The child, parents and godparents cut the cake together.
2:15
Music and photos
- Family photos with the godparents, then music and time to visit.
Checklist
- Parish date confirmed and preparation classes done.
- Godparents chosen and their parish letters requested if needed.
- Venue booked for 30 to 45 minutes after the service.
- Guest list with a separate count of children.
- Menu with options for kids, and high chairs requested.
- Cake, favors and keepsakes ordered.
- Photographer told the church time and the party time.
Sources
- Code of Canon Law, Canons 872 to 874 (sponsors at baptism)
Treasure Banquets is an event venue, not a law firm, and this guide is not legal advice. We date every guide and update it when the rules change.
